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Pursuing Abundant Life
Wiser Choices
Abundant Life
CONNECTION BEGINS WITH SAFETY
We learned to protect ourselves before we learned to connect.
We learned to protect ourselves before we learned to connect. Now the shell that once kept us safe is the very thing keeping us apart. Wisdom teaches us to also ensure that others are safe enough to come out of their shell.
From Protection to Connection
Healthy relationships grow through safety, reciprocity, boundaries, ownership, repair, and trust.
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The shell had a purpose.
Withdrawal, pleasing, control, overexplaining, and keeping the peace often began as protection.
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Understanding the pattern helps us choose a wiser response.
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Safety creates connection.
Connection grows when people are consistent, reciprocal, honest, and able to repair harm.
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Trust is built slowly through what happens next.
ROMANS 12:10
"Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves."
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Reciprocity
Both people give, receive, listen, and respond.
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Repair
Ownership and changed behavior make healing possible.
Relationships require more than closeness.
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Boundaries
Love remains honest, about responsibility, capacity, and limits.
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Trust
Forgiveness may be given freely. Trust is built through consistency.
Humans live in herds to preserve connection and safety.
Being a part of a herd makes us feel safe. Our guard can rise when we feel that we are on the outside of the herd. An awkward interaction, a dismissed idea, or an unanswered text can make us feel unsafe.
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Feeling unsafe causes us to retreat into our shell to protect our hearts.
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Your Herd
Do I move through relationships in a healthy way, not too quickly or too slow?
There is a natural progression to move through relationships. Moving too quickly or slowly can reveal underlying wounds.
Relationships grow through time, trust,
reciprocity, and vulnerability.
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CLOSENESS IS EARNED
Who did I let in too soon and too close?
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Your Shell
Do I use protective in relationships that cause me to feel unsafe?
What am I trying to protect, prevent, gain, or hold onto right now?
Instinct keeps us in our shell.
Wisdom challenges our thinking allowing us to come out.
Own My Stuff
Responsibility to make right what I did.
Responsibility to hold boundaries for what they did.
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Where did I not watch for the signs?
Your Heart
Do I repair it, set a boundary, create distance, or let it go?
Boundaries
Wisdom to repair, enforce consequences, or let go.
Wisdom
Every relationship experinces disappointment, misunderstanding, and conflict. The harder question is figuring out what belongs to you, what belongs to the other person, and what the relationship requires next.